So I contacted the buyer and told him so that he could make an item not received claim and I could give him a refund and claim it from the post office.
So he made the claim, I gave him a refund. He then sent me this email:
Ignoring the fact that if I was trying to scam him in some way I would have never contacted him in the first place.
So I sent him a scan of the padded envelope and suggested he complain to eBay if he thought he had a case. Somehow I doubt he will...
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